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There Is Nothing Loving In Living A Lie: Telling Children The Truth About Divorce

Posted: Sunday, 19th April 2009

Dear Mel,

My husband and I are getting divorced. There’s no one else on either side. We just shouldn’t ever have got married in the first place. And I don’t think we would have been married as long as we have except that I’ve put up with everything that wrong without saying anything about it.

The thing is, our teenage children are beginning to blame me – even though they’ve seen some of the things that have gone wrong in the past and seen how their dad was at fault.

Articles on related themes: Family & Parenting; Forgiveness; Relationships

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Successful Step Parenting: Do You Know What It Takes?

Posted: Wednesday, 26th November 2008

I’ve been asked by BBC Radio 5 Live if I would take part in a debate, arguing the case for the premiss Can A Step Parent Take The Place Of A Real Parent? The e-mail was from one of their producers, who said he’d found my book, Stepfamilies on a Google search. During the telephone conversation that ensued, he asked me if I knew of anyone who might argue the case against. I’ve had to say that I don’t.

STEPFAMILY PROBLEMS

My book was based on personal experience, but also included a number of case studies: people my second husband and I interviewed for the book.

Articles on related themes: Forgiveness; Self Help; Family & Parenting; Bereavement; Stepfamilies

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Healing And Forgiveness

Posted: Thursday, 6th November 2008

An article in The Times, last month, contrasted, without condemning, the reactions of two families who have recently been in the news. First was the story of the two young boys killed by footballer and drink driver Luke McCormick, whose family was unable to forgive him. And second was Carolyn Todd, the widow of Michael, Chief Constable of Greater Manchester who forgave her husband not only his affairs, but also his death on a mountain in Wales. In the same week, the British Prime Minister, Gordon Brown, and Cabinet Minister, Peter Mandelson, showed us all (seemingly) how to forgive and forget in political circles.

Articles on related themes: Self Help; Life, Faith & Other Stuff; Books, Reading & Words; Forgiveness

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The Art of Forgiveness - Is It Achievable?

Posted: Tuesday, 21st October 2008

My daughter passed on to me her copy of The Times from a couple of weekends ago. She thought I might like to blog about an article to do with modern grannies, but my eye was caught by another – on healing and forgiveness. Time enough for grannies at a later date, I thought!

PERSONAL PRACTICE OF THE ART OF FORGIVENESS

It was particularly relevant to me because of a decision made by others a decade ago, which has resonated through my family ever since. What was once a warm and close-knit unit is now, sadly, scattered, slow-burning coals.

Articles on related themes: Self Help; Life, Faith & Other Stuff; Forgiveness

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