Free Psychometric Profiling Switch On As The Power Of Positive Thinking Is Unplugged

Posted at 17:53pm on 22nd July 2009

The Power of Positive Thinking, Norman Vincent Peale, has electrified society for over half a century as the means of feeling valued and attaining success in life. Now, it appears, to have been unplugged – or at least to have suffered power failure and fizzled out! Despite an epidemic of positive thinking for the last fifty years, we are, says the World Health Organisation, heading for a pandemic of depression in little more than a decade.

Psychologists have discovered from case studies, that repeating positive thoughts can, actually, be counterproductive – especially for those who are most in need of a psychological boost.

WHAT DO I WANT TO DO WITH MY LIFE?

I suppose it makes sense. Back in the 1980’s, following a painful divorce, I felt much like the victim of a road traffic accident. Battered. And bruised. Torn apart, limb from limb. And the major question was: What do I want to do with my life?

It was so easy to latch onto the power of positive thought as if it were a lifeline, feeding me an intravenous cocktail of positive thinking for each day. All I had to do was to repeat a mantra to convince myself that I was the most desirable woman in the world. Once embedded in my subconscious, all the hurt and rejection of being tossed aside for another woman would be cancelled out. I would truly become the most alluring female on the planet.

PROMOTING PERSONAL GROWTH?

Now it’s true that turning negative thoughts out by replacing them with positive ones is good for one’s general health and well being. What is not helpful, according to a recent study is for people with low self-esteem to keep repeating a positive self-statement – whether or not that statement might be true. It seems that focusing on something which feels out of your reach may, actually, have a detrimental affect in that it reinforces the gap between what is desirable and what is reality.

EMPOWERING SOLUTIONS

The New Economic Foundation – in an article designed to help people cope with an economy in free-fall – suggests an entirely different approach. “Evidence from the science of well-being,” it states, “suggests that once basic needs are met, stepping off the consumer treadmill, and taking time to develop connections with the world and people around us will lead to happier, more fulfilled lives.” The “Five-a-day-to-well-being

  • Connect
  • Be Active
  • Be Curious
  • Keep Learning
  • Give Something to Someone”

programme - focuses on what, in other language, might be called “body, soul, mind and spirit.”

There is, of course, nothing new in this. The ten commandments point us to Connecting - in our relationships with God, with ourselves and with others. In essence, the first two boil down to: Love the Lord your God; and Love your neighbour as yourself.

Be Curious is part and parcel of loving God as outlined in the Five-a-day above: “Be aware of the world around you and what you are feeling. Reflecting on your experiences will help you appreciate what matters to you.” And giving to others is at the heart of the Christian experience.

FREE PSYCHOMETRIC PROFILING TESTS FOR GENERAL HEALTH AND WELL BEING

What I want to concentrate on, today, is the idea that instead of constantly measuring ourselves against others, striving to “better ourselves”, and inevitably failing, we should learn to accept ourselves as we are.

I’m aware, as I type these words, that there is a negative connotation in them. An air of defeat. But I want to surprise you. To offer you a concept which is exhilarating. Because YOU are something special. And there’s nothing negative or defeatist about discovering the Real You.

  • Not the stressed-out, worn-out, striving-for-a-better-life you.
  • Nor the trying-to-be-all-things-to-all-people you.
  • Nor even the mind-over-matter, meeting-other-people’s-expectations you.

No! Whether you have a faith or not, the You that I want to introduce you to is the You God created you to be. The perfect, pink, brand-new, untainted personality that lies beneath the layers of conditioning, striving and disappointment. It’s there, inside you. And like an onion, all you need to do to find yourself, is to peel away those layers. Underneath, you will find:

  • What makes you tick, as a person
  • The lifestyle you crave
  • The people you best relate to
  • How to get the best out of your relationships
  • What sort of parent you are
  • Your natural attributes
  • The scope of your creativity
  • Your communication skills
  • Your ability to plan for your future
  • The job expertise you have to offer

WHAT IS PSYCHOMETRIC TESTING?

Psychometric profiling is – among other things – a means of testing the measurement of knowledge, abilities, attitudes, and personality traits. Its origins lie as far back as the late nineteenth century, but the manner in which this is achieved is best laid first at the door of Carl Jung and, more recently, Myers-Briggs.

PSYCHOMETRIC PERSONALITY TESTS

Forget the power of positive thought and its debunked philosophy. As of today, I am launching a set of FREE psychometric personality tests. Be sure to leave a comment at the end of this post to let me know how you get on. Get your free personality test here.

Your Comments:

23rd July 2009
at 4:39am

Hi Mel,



Excellent and scarily accurate profiler, I'm an ESTP
(Extrovert, Sensing, Thinking, Perceiving) and it got me down to a
"T"!



I urge others to try this and post what they are like.

8th October 2009
at 7:59pm

Very thoughtfull post on positivethinking. It should be very
much helpfull.



Thanks,

Karim - Positive thinking

Mel Menzies
11th October 2009
at 12:27am

Thank you Karim. I "rescued" your comment from my SPAM
box because it was not an automated response. But it might have
been better had you actually read my article ;-) Because although I
agree with you that what I had written was "helpful", it
was not helpful in the way that you meant it.



Thinking positively is good for human beings! There we agree.
However, reciting words and phrases as self-indoctrination is not
good; nor is paying for tapes and CD's for someone else to do
it for you. Thoughts are not "magical"! And as any
psychologist will tell you, pushing the negative thoughts of
reality into the subconscious is positively harmful!



Understanding yourself as you are, and your situation as it is,
is the first step in making the most of the potential that lies
within you. And that means building on your strengths AT THE SAME
TIME AS BEING HONEST ABOUT YOUR FRAILTIES. Because then, and only
then, can you begin to grow as a person.



And even then, it is not about focusing on yourself! Because the
real test is in knowing the One who made you, and understanding how
your unique set of personality traits is designed to run smoothly,
like a cog in a well-oiled machine, in unison with the rest of the
world. Only when we use our talents for the benefit of others will
we ever find true success and satisfaction in life.

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